Rage Against the Machine: Navigating Anger in a Frustrating World

March 22, 2023

how to deal with anger

You’re in a rush to get to work and you spill coffee all over your shirt. You start to feel frustrated and angry. You start yelling at the coffee cup and throwing it across the room. Your cat walks in and sees you having a meltdown. They get scared and run away. You end up feeling guilty for scaring your cat and spend the rest of the day feeling down. 

I want to approach this heavy topic with the idea that there are no positive or negative emotions; only a range of human emotions that we all experience. Anger is a natural emotion that occurs when we feel threatened or frustrated. However, when we experience anger too frequently or intensely, it can become a problem.

I Get So Angry Easily, What Is Happening?

If you find yourself getting angry easily, it’s important to recognize that this may be a sign of an underlying issue. For example, if you’re experiencing stress or anxiety, this can make you more prone to anger. If you’ve experienced trauma or have unresolved emotional issues, this can also contribute to anger. By working with a therapist, you can identify these underlying issues and develop strategies to manage your anger more effectively.

Why Do I Get Frustrated So Easily? Frustrated Emotions

Frustration is another common emotion that can be difficult to manage. It occurs when we feel like we’re not making progress towards our goals or when we encounter obstacles. Frustration can lead to feelings of anger, but it’s important to recognize that these are two separate emotions. By learning to identify and manage frustration, we can prevent it from escalating into anger.

Creative Ways to Deal with Anger

There are many creative ways to deal with anger, including physical exercise, mindfulness, and relaxation techniques. For example, going for a run or practicing yoga can help release pent-up energy and tension. Mindfulness can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings without judgment, while relaxation techniques like deep breathing can help us calm down in the moment.

How to Deal with Frustration and Anger

When it comes to dealing with frustration and anger, it’s important to develop a toolbox of coping strategies that work for you. This may include things like journaling, talking to a trusted friend or family member, or engaging in a creative activity like painting or writing. By finding healthy ways to express and manage your emotions, you can prevent them from becoming overwhelming.

The Difference Between Frustration and Anger

While frustration and anger are often linked, it’s important to recognize that they are two separate emotions. Frustration is a feeling of being stuck or blocked, while anger is a response to a perceived threat or injustice. By learning to differentiate between these emotions, we can develop more targeted strategies for managing them.

If you find yourself struggling with anger or frustration, know that you’re not alone. By working with a therapist and utilizing therapeutic modalities like MBCBT , you can develop effective strategies for managing these emotions. Remember to be patient with yourself and to practice self-care regularly. With time and effort, you can learn to manage your emotions in a healthy and productive way. Contact us if you need support to manage your emotions so they don’t hold you back from the life you want to live. 


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Kyra Ross

Kyra believes that the incorporation of the whole person is needed for growth, healing, and the ability to flourish as an individual. In her work as a clinician, she utilizes body and breathwork to strengthen the awareness of the mind/body connection. Awareness of her clients intersectionality and how their multiple identities contribute to their worldview allows room for healing from intergenerational and societal traumas.