FIVE REFLECTIONS FROM 2025

1. Let Your Heart Break so You’re Spirit Doesn’t – Andrea Gibson

             This poem captures the essence of my 2025. I feel permitted to experience the grief and sadness in this current reality. I also feel hopeful and a desire to continue to move forward. My aim is to support others continue to move forward with their truth intact even when it is not honored by those with power.  

2. Bloom Where You’re Planted – Author Unknown – spoken by Andy Reed, Head Coach of the Kansas City Chiefs

                Those algorithims that place what you least expected in your recommended whatever app account is responsible for this one. Not being much of a football fan, I somehow found myself watching the series The Kingdom. In it Any Reed tells the story about his family’s need to move due to his career choice. He had an awareness of the impact on his kids and developed this motto with his wife to support their children to thrive no matter where they lived. My family moved this year and I found these words very encouraging.  

3. We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern. – Harriet Lerner

                  This quote always speaks to the part of me that is resistant to accepting that the only person I have control over is myself. I’m the only one in charge of how my feet move to the beat. Sometimes that will be in sync with others and sometimes not. That’s ok. I choose to believe there’s plenty of room on the dance floor. 

4. Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are…True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth…because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing. – Archbishop Desmond Tutu

                  I have appreciated the impact for my clients when we are able to transform the energy trapped in the anger that protects the hurt into the force of forgiveness. At times the result may be a closeness between two. At times not. However, in time always there is a greater closeness and peacefulness within oneself. There is no longer the boil and the banging of the anger. In this peace one can then choose if or how they want to share that forgiveness with the other or just know it for themselves. It’s a choice. 

5. There are No Failures Only Lessons Learned – Author Unknown – Our mantel piece

                  As I mentioned earlier and wrote about in a previous blog, my family moved this year. I know that questioning is part of the process of transition and grieving and yet it still took me by surprise. After a day that felt like forever with locations and navigation that were completely unfamiliar at times that felt interruptive even though they had been newly planned for. I was certain this move was a mistake. And then I saw our cube with this quote. I sat. I asked myself what is the lesson here? I heard it so clearly once I finally stopped to ask.  This is all new and unfamiliar. I need to do less until more feels familiar and less feels new. This inner guidance felt right and awkward to try to do less and give myself more time to become accustomed my new neighborhood, running routes, yoga studios, dog parks, pedestrian life timing and family commitments. It’s been 3.5 months.  I don’t feel like a failure and I’ve learned a lot. 

If you are curious to reflect about your experience in 2025 and how you can carry forward the lessons you’ve learned and leave in the past what doesn’t serve you moving forward, Contact Us.